I don’t have the time says… almost every women everywhere around the world. Especially when in pertains to doing something for herself like (having lunch with her girls, reading a new book, or simply doing something spontaneous like packing a bag and running away for the weekend). However research shows that girl’s trips are actually good for our mental.
July was designated as Minority Mental Health Awareness Month in 2008 to bring awareness to the unique struggles that underrepresented groups face in regard to mental illness in the United States. I figured what better time and way to sucker some friends into a weekend getaway that we had only been discussing for about 2 years. I sent out a text and everyone agreed we were finally going to take a mini vacation to NAPLES, FLORIDA. I know what you’re thinking there’s nothing to do in Naples, but nothing to do is exactly what we needed. The funny thing is every last one of us needed this mini vacay but it seems as though we either allowed our conscious mind to believe we had too much other things that needed to get done or our subconscious mind reminded us of all the reasons we didn’t deserve or shouldn’t be enjoying life right now.
In a 2016 study researchers found that spending time with friends boosts the production of oxytocin, which is often called the “love” or “cuddle” hormone. Oxytocin is released when you’re in positive social situations and will make you feel trusting, empathetic, and all-around very happy.
Oxytocin is also a great remedy for depression and anxiety. There have been several studies completed on the impact social interactions have on one’s mental and physical health. These findings concluded that:
It means only one thing….. Grab your girls, whether it’s in town, or out of town, and simply getaway. Leave the computers at home, turn those phones on silent, find a reliable babysitter that won’t need to bother you, make sure meal prep your husbands meals for a few days, and simply spend some quality time with your girls.
During this trip we spent so much needed time uplifting, encouraging, listening, laughing, crying, joking, dancing, singing, smiling, and pouring into one another. We went out to dinner, brunch, watch t.v. shows and movies, spent time on the beach in the sand, and even under the tiki hut when it rained. We took beautiful photos together, found out some amazing news, and got a better understanding of the emotions and experiences we each were encountering in our everyday lives. You see too often we get caught up things such as adulating, jobs, relationships, children, careers that we often put aside the things that bring us JOY.
The highlight of our trip was definitely Sunday morning when we engaged in “Our Mental Matters Healing Activities”. The activities were placed on my heart before we left in celebration of Minority Mental Health Month as a way to connect, and support one another on this journey called life. Each woman was given a goody bag with a t-shirt and some facial/self-care items. After getting dressed and grabbing their favorite morning drink (tea, coffee, or a mimosa) we spent time in prayer/meditation, journaling, reflecting on this trip and pouring into one another. The activity included each of us completing the following tasks/questions:
|Idea’s For Our Next Girls|
|Back In The Days Retreat|
This trip started off as just a girl’s trip but ended up being a Girls Mental Getaway. We all left feeling encouraged, empowered, motivated, and rejuvenated. We could have spent it doing so many other things however as we get older we realize type spent together should consist of the 3 M’s.
It should be MEANINGFUL.
It should allow us to create MEMORIES.
and It should MOTIVATE us to become better versions of ourselves.
goes to Mrs. Sathasha Williams: “Life isn’t about the Quantity of Friends but the Quality of Friends”.
To every queen, sister, daughter, mother, friend, business owner, boss, employee, wife, etc. you deserve this. You need it. Don’t feel guilty about leaving TRUST ME. Everyone and everything will be just fine when you return. Remember “You’re no good for them… If you’re no good for YOU”.
Thank You Amanda & Sathasha for this amazing Getaway. Thank your for your love support, and ability to be open and raw. I love you both, and look forward to many, many, more adventures.